So far, knock on wood, my kids have made great choices when it comes to picking friends. One thing I tell my kids when they leave my house is “make wise choices.” I want them to have fun, and I want them to hang with their friends. But, I also want them to make wise choices while they are out of my sight.
In my opinion, it’s better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction. Isaac, who attends the local public high school, tells me stories all the time about classmates who are not making wise choices. This kid is failing classes. That kid never comes to school. That one is in trouble for smoking pot.
I want my kids to have friends. I want them to have the memories I have of hanging with my buddies at the mall or having sleepovers. However, I want them to be strong enough to make wise choices even when their peers are not.
I was not. I did things – not really bad thing, but things – that I knew were wrong as I was doing them. I knew I could get in trouble if I got caught. However, it was more important to me to fit in than it was to do what was right. I don’t want that for my kids.
Just because “everyone else is doing it” does not mean they should be doing it. I have a child with a strong personality. This one is a leader. This one fully weighs the consequences before making a decision – right or wrong. I have another that is a total follower. This one wants desperately to fit in and to blend in to the crowd. My other kiddo seems to be neither a leader nor a follower. This one does their own thing. I’m not sure what that will look like in the teenage years.
I pray that each of my children – no matter their age – will be strong enough to make wise choices. I pray that they will know that it is better to walk alone for a season than to surround themselves with the wrong crowd.